We all have people who criticize us and the things we do. Maybe they are family, friends, or strangers on the Internet. Either way, if the criticism is not constructive, it really sucks!
This is a post that I have been hesitant to post, but it is a feeling I have been stewing on. I know other people feel the same way I do, so I am ready to come out and write this. I am ready to speak for so many people who are frustrated.
This post is for those of us who have some serious goals, who run a small business, who have a passion, and ALL OF THE ABOVE. We are girl bosses, we are apart of a team, we are trying to make our lives better, and we are trying to help others.
This can mean different things for different people.
Personally, I have all of the above and they are all tied into one another. I own a small business, both with Herbalife and outside of Herbalife, and I am passionate about health and fitness. I have been criticized so much for being healthy and trying to help others get healthy and remain healthy.
I think getting and being healthy is the most stupid thing to be criticized for. I get shit on, for lack of better words, for scheduling time out of my day to go to the gym. I drink my shakes, I stay hydrated, and I make sure to really take good care of my body. I am also a well-balanced person so I am not afraid to drink alcohol, go out to eat, and have some fun with my husband and friends. Basically what I am trying to say is that I live a balanced life but I still seem to be criticized for the actions I do take to make sure that it is balanced.
People have criticized me both to my face, behind my back, and on social media. People whom I considered friends have muted me or unfollowed/unfriended me from social media. People are basically offended about me wanting to be healthy and I am quite confused about it, honestly.
I know other people have gone through (or are going through) the same thing and feel the same way.
So, here’s the thing:
I personally do not criticize others about their life choices (usually) unless they ask for my honest opinion. Why are you doing that to us?
I don’t comment about people who drink too much, who eat too much fast food, who don’t stay physically active, who are chronically dehydrated, and the like. Why don’t I? Because if you can’t admit it to yourself then you’re not going to listen to me so what’s the point in wasting my time?
Besides, if you are happy living life just the way you are and don’t want to change a thing, then why should I care?
Why do you care?
Secondly, if you were a true friend to us, wouldn’t you love the fact that we are doing something that we are passionate about and that makes us happy? Would it kill you to support us or at least just keep your opinions to yourself?
I personally workout and focus on my health because I know what it’s like to be sick and weak. I have been on the brink of death in the past and for those of you who don’t know what that feels like, you’re lucky. I never want to feel like that again, so yes, I am taking care of my body and I am trying to be the strongest and best version of myself, physically and mentally.
(Also I am in the military so I have to pass a yearly physical training test.)
Just because I am doing something that you don’t see a point in or don’t like does not mean you get to shit on me.
What happened to support others as long as they aren’t hurting anyone?
For those of you who are in my shoes:
Never forget that this is your life and you need to do what makes you happy. Don’t even consider what others think or say when you are going for your goals!
Always stay kind and support those you love, even if they don’t support you. Why? To set an example. We are leaders and sometimes that means swallowing our negative feelings and killing people with love and kindness.
Stay true to yourself, stay positive, and you will attract like-minded people.
I wear a lot of hats: NASM Certified Personal Trainer, Weight Loss Specialist, and Fitness Nutrition Specialist. A writer with a B.A. in English and Professional Writing. A fur mom and a wife. A mental health advocate and a septic shock survivor. An Airman and an athlete. I live in South Florida and am in love with the ocean. People can typically find me either in the gym or at home, writing or reading.